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It's okay to be "not okay"

I really dislike how it's not okay to be "not okay" in our culture. Let me explain.

In the Bible, some of most inspiring key players (say, David and even JESUS!) struggled and had low low's. As He was dying, Jesus asked God to take the cup from Him, if it was His will. He was struggling. It was a low low.

Fast forward to 2010, and somehow our culture completely shuns brokenness. In fact, we assume someone is weak or has a flawed personality if they are down. Most of the time, we don't even ADMIT when we are struggling because we fear how others will perceive us. We fear rejection, gossip, and that others will think badly of us if we admit we are dealing with sadness, fear, depression, or sin.

The enemy loves it when we keep our seasons of struggle hidden from others. Evil thrives in the darkness. When we don't tell anyone about our struggles, we isolate ourselves and basically wilt, receiving nothing to alleviate our pain. When we are honest about struggles, confiding in others and asking for prayer, we thrive and receive the support and encouragement (and the healing from prayer!) that we need.

We have to remember that when we are weak, then we are strong! When we feel like we have nothing left - those are the times that we realize how much we really need Jesus. Weakness is a powerful thing. We all know this, but we simply hate being weak, don't we? I pray that we will all begin to see the value and the opportunities that brokenness and weakness bring.

I want to get better about this, seeking help when I need it, instead of putting on a happy face and acting fine. I also want to be better at being approachable, someone who others feel comfortable confiding in when they are facing trouble.

Just my mid-afternoon thoughts...

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  1. Jessica DucharmeNovember 30, 2010 at 1:17 AM

    Hi, Leigh! I just stumbled upon your blog and must say that I am struggling with this. It's nice to know that I am not the only one. Take care and thanks for posting :)

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